When Someone Triggers You:
- Christina Pelican
- Jun 19
- 2 min read
How to Walk Through the Portal of Your Wound Back to Yourself

We live in a society where, if someone bothers us, the reflex is often to want them to change.
We wish the other would act differently—because we feel uncomfortable.
But what if that exact moment, that trigger, is actually a portal?
A door that leads us back home to ourselves?
I’ve learned to turn the gaze inward—and that has changed everything.
The Journey Begins Within
When something about you triggers me, I start by looking within myself.
As soon as the first shock or drama has passed, and I have space to breathe, I return to the feeling the situation stirred in me.
By consciously feeling, I open a portal inside myself—leading straight to an old wound.I step into it, bear witness to the pain, and offer myself compassion and grace.
Finding the Root—and Transforming It
But I don’t stop there. I take it a step further:
I ask myself: When did I feel this for the very first time?
Then I invite my Higher Self to show me the original moment this emotion was born.
I trust that my soul will only show me what I’m truly ready to see.
Often, this journey leads me back to my childhood.
I allow myself to feel the pain again. I see what really happened.
The frozen emotion begins to soften—it flows again.
I hold space for myself, allowing the emotions to move—through writing, crying, dancing, or simply breathing.
The most important thing?
I stay with myself.
I continue breathing, send myself love, and apply Compassion Key phrases or ThetaHealing to shift the old pattern.
When the Outside No Longer Has Power Over You
Over time, I’ve transformed many inner patterns that used to drive me crazy in others. Today, they hold no charge. No more drama. Just peace.
Everything that happens in the outside world mirrors our inner landscape. It’s not the other’s behavior itself—but the feeling it activates in us.
A feeling we've often known for a long time. One we never wanted to feel again.
So we resist. We push away. We react.
But when we have the courage to turn inward,we find the real root—and finally, we heal.
Shadow Work Is Light Work
I’ve grown to love shadow work. It has brought me calm, clarity, compassion.
It has allowed me to hold deep, sacred space—for myself and for others.
So, when someone triggers you deeply, step away. Breathe. Be still.
Then… walk through the portal your wound has opened.
That’s where your strength lies.
That’s where healing begins.
💫 Want to go deeper?
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With love and presence,
Christina
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